How to crack the codes in online profiles, personal ads and internet chat.

2 on 1

Sex involving two men topping one sub.

420

(Said 'four-twenty'); American term for cannabis

Aggro

Rough play; punching, wrestling, kicking etc.

Amyl

(Pronounced 'ammul'); Australian slang for poppers.

Ash tray service

Taking cigarette/cigar ash in the mouth or outstretched hand or on other areas of the body (grey ash shouldn't hurt but glowing red ash will burn).

Bagpiping

Fucking an armpit

Ball busting

Getting turned on from testicles being hit or kicked.

bb

Bareback; fucking without condoms.

bc

See 'breath control'

bd

Bondage and discipline

BDSM

Bondage and domination, sado-masochism; getting turned on by using power, control or pain - with consent - during sex.

Bear

Heavy, hairy man

BLUF

Breeches Leather Uniform Club; online membership club for leathermen.

Body mods

Body modification; temporary or permanent changes to the body, for example piercing, tattooing, branding and saline injection.

Bottom, to bottom

Man who gives up power or takes the submissive role in sex (and possibly gets fucked); to take the submissive role.

Branding

Making permanent marks or patterns on the skin with heated metal.

brb

Be right back (if interrupted during online chat).

Breath control

Getting turned on by restricting your or another's air supply through (controlled) strangulation, rebreathing, suffocation, hanging.

Breed

To fuck or get fucked without condoms.

Brown

Scat

btw

By the way (during online chat)

Can(not) accomm

The person can(not) invite men for sex to their home.

Can/will travel

The person will come to you for sex.

Cash slave

Someone who pays money (usually over the internet e.g. through Pay Pal) to a top or Master, often in return for nothing.

Caths

Catheters

cbt

Cock and ball torture

Chariot racing

Fisting two arses at the same time

Chastity

Wearing long term metal or plastic dick devices that stop a man wanking or having sex.

Chav

British working class street fashion (trainers or sneakers, sports wear, baseball caps, jewellery); also called Scally.

Chems

Recreational/party drugs

Chemsex

Sex on drugs

Collared

Formally committed in a Master/slave-type relationship; can be symbolised by wearing actual dog collar or a more discreet chain.

CP

Corporal punishment; for example spanking or hitting with belts, straps or whips.

Cub

Younger bear-type

Cum control

Repeated, prolonged arousal of someone (usually restrained) to the point of ejaculation, then stopping to prevent orgasm. Especially intense if the person is eventually allowed to come.

Cum dump, cumdumpster

Man who gets fucked without condoms and takes semen inside his arse, usually from many men.

Cut, uncut

Circumcised, not circumcised

Cyber, cybersex

Masturbating while exchanging sexually explicit online messages

Dawg

The sub role in dog/Master sex. (See 'K9')

dd

Disease and drug. So 'dd free' means they are, and want others to be, not users of recreational drugs and free of sexually transmitted infections, often assumed to include HIV.

dd

Dildos

Dirty

sex involving piss or shit, for example 'into dirty'

Dog

The sub role in dog/Master sex (see 'K9').

Dom

Man who takes the dominant/top/Master role in sex.

Double fisting

Putting two fists inside a man's arse.

dp

Double penetration; taking two dildos or cocks up the arse.

Edge, edgeplay

Sex involving real or simulated physical or psychological danger that is over the edge of traditional safe and sane play; for example cutting, needles, weapons, breath control, branding, abduction/abuse scenes, scat and role play based on age or incest.

Electro(sex)

Sexual stimulation with electricity

E-stim

Sexual stimulation with electricity

f

Fucking/anal sex

Fem

Effeminate man

Feminisation

Wearing women's clothing, especially underwear, being referred to in (often derogatory) female terms; can be forced as a form of degradation in sexual role play. Also known as sissification/being sissified.

ff

Fisting

Flip

To change from the top/active role to bottom/passive, or vice versa.

G

The recreational drug GHB (or GBL)

Gang bang

(Consenting) group sex

Gar

Cigar

Gob

Sex involving spitting on others/being spat on.

Golden showers

See 'watersports'

GOM

Glove over mouth; play involving grabbing someone from behind while covering their mouth.

Guiche

(Pronounced 'geesh'). Piercing through the back of the ball sack and through the perineum. Read more about guiche.

HOM

Hand over mouth (see 'GOM')

(well)hung

Has large cock

Ink/inked

Tattoos/has tattoos

Jackhammering

When one man puts his dick and hand inside the other man's arse, then wanks himself off inside the guy's arse. Also known as piston fucking.

JO

Jerk/jack off; US slang for masturbation.

K

The recreational drug ketamine

K9

Canine; role play where one man plays the part of being a dog, the other his master.

Limits

The line marking what someone is/isn't willing to do sexually. No limits means they will do anything, no matter how extreme (the mark of either a fantasist or someone to avoid).

Lol

Laugh out loud (written in messages); 'I'm laughing', also rflol (rolling on the floor laughing out loud).

Manstink

Body odour

Masochist

Someone who gets sexual enjoyment from feeling pain (masochism).

Master

Dominant partner (often sadist and/or top in anal sex) who's been given permission by a sub to exercise control over them in a sex scene or relationship; capital M used to show respect.

Metal /metalled (up)

body piercings/has piercings

Milking

Prostate massage. A man gently stimulating with fingers, dildo, vibrator or something similar another man's prostate gland (inside the arse) in order to get prostate fluid, a clear or milky liquid, (different to but looking like pre-cum) oozing from his cock. Can also mean forcing repeated ejaculation until no cum is left in the man.

m8

Friend (British English)

Mummification

Completely wrapping the body in tape, cling film or similar, leaving only holes to breath through.

Needles

See 'play piercing'

Neg

HIV negative

Otter

Man into bears who himself is slimmer but with body hair.

PA

Prince Albert; piercing in the head of the dick

to Party

Recreational drugs; 'I like to party' means 'I use drugs'.

Party favo(u)rs

Recreational drugs

to Perve

To cruise or look at sexually (Australian slang)

Pig

Man into sleazy sex; possibly including piss, fisting, rimming and so on.

Piston fucking

See 'jackhammering'

Pits

(Sweaty) armpits

Play piercing

Temporary piercing of the skin using single-use, disposable needles placed under the skin; shallow, not deep, piercing.

PnP

Party and play/poppers and pills; recreational drugs.

Poz, to poz (up)

HIV positive, to infect with HIV.

Pumping

Using vacuum pumps to enhance an erection.

Punch fucking

A rougher form of fisting; inserting a clenched fist in and out of the hole, like a cock pumps an arse.

Pup

Younger man involved in K9 sex. See 'dog'.

Raw

Fucking without condoms.

Rebreathing

Breathing in your own or another man's exhaled breath; mouth to mouth holding the nose, bag over the head or though connected gas masks.

Red

Fisting

Reds

Cigarettes (especially Marlboro)

Root

Fuck (Australian slang)

Rosebud

Internal rectal tissue sticking out through the arse hole due to heavy arse play such as fisting.

Sadist

Someone who gets sexual enjoyment from inflicting pain on others (sadism).

Safe and sane (and consensual), SSC

Into kink sex that is with consent and aims to be aware of risk, free of harm, and done sensibly.

Safe word

Word, code or signal agreed before sex to signal that someone is/isn't OK.

Saline

Injecting salt water into the testicles or penis.

Scally

See 'Chav'.

Scrotal infusion/inflation

Injecting salt water solution into the ball sack.

SM/S&M

Sado-masochism; sexual enjoyment of pain, control or power.

Sissification

See 'feminisation'

Slave

Someone who wants to be the submissive partner or bottom in a relationship with a Master, and who is usually also a masochist. Their owner exercises degrees of control over their life (property, finances, personal freedom). This may be role play restricted to sex sessions or be more a 24/7 lifestyle. Ownership (or enslavement or servitude) often symbolised by wearing a Master's collar.

Slave register

Online site where slaves and subs of all sexualities can be registered and given a unique number (SLRN) and ownership certificate www.slaveregister.com.

Sleep sack

Close-fitting zipped and laced up leather, rubber or canvas body bag used in bondage scenes.

Snuff

Sex leading to death (real or fantasy).

Sounds

Thin metal rods inserted down the urethra (piss pipe).

STI, STD

Sexually transmitted infection/disease

Sub/to Sub

Man who takes the submissive role in sex

Subincision

Extreme form of body mod, involving deep cutting of the underside of the cock from the tip to its base.

Switch

To change sexual role (top to bottom and vice versa); a man who does this.

Tats

tattoos

Tina

The recreational drug crystal meth

Top, to top

Man who takes the dominant role in sex (and probably does the fucking), to take the dominant role.

Toys

Sex toys: dildos, butt plugs, also vacuum pumps and genital restraints such as cockrings.

Tribute

Paying money (usually over the internet into a bank account, for example via PayPal) to a top or Master, often in return for nothing.

Tromboning

Rimming a man whilewanking him off

tt

Tit torture, tit play

Tweak, tweaker

To use the drug crystal meth, meth user

Twink

Young (late teens, early 20s), attractive gay man, usually slim and without body hair; often assumed to be naïve/unintelligent (US slang).

Urethral (play)

Inserting catheters or metal rods (sounds) into the urethra (piss pipe).

Vac rac

Two full-length sheets of thin rubber held in a frame. Through vacuum suction a person is sealed in, experiencing all over coverage and immobilisation. A breathing tube prevents suffocation.

Vacs

Vacuum pumps; used to enhance erections.

Vanilla

Sex (oral and anal, mutual masturbation) that doesn't involve anything kinky such as rough sex, fetishes, SM, bondage, piss, fisting.

Vers

Versatile; can take the top or bottom role in sex.

VWE, VVWE

Very well endowed, very very well endowed (has large cock).

Wank, wanker

Masturbate (British slang), idiot

ws

Watersports

Yellow

Watersports