Things to know about fisting

The art of fisting is to relax enough so that stretching of the sphincter and anal canal doesn't involve too much force. Trust + relaxation = safer, more pleasurable fisting.

If new to it, don't let a beginner experiment on you. Instead put your arse in the hands of an experienced fister.

How to get fisted

Men being fisted often have an enema beforehand to reduce mess

Practice first with large dildos to learn stretching and relaxing.

Some fisters prefer drugs to relax them for the act - such as poppers or ketamine - but being drugged or drunk increases the risk of injury, as you're less likely to feel pain or notice something going wrong.

The best position to be fisted in is on hands and knees or on the back with knees up, for example in a sling.

Breathing deeply helps relax arse muscles and, as with being fucked, pushing out (as if trying to shit), then pulling in with your arse muscles, often helps get the fist through the arse hole.

How to fist

Nails are best trimmed and filed, and jewellery taken off to reduce the risk of cuts. Fisting, especially if too quick, can tear the lining of the inside of the arse.

You can never have too much lube. Water-based lube like KY dries out too fast. Lubrifist and J-Lube are good water-based lubes. Crisco (a lard-type oil-based cooking fat like Trex) is used by many fisters but, like all oil-based lubes, it weakens condoms and latex gloves. Some fisters reckon gloves are less easily damaged than condoms because they're thicker, or they recommend wearing two gloves.

The same lube container shouldn't be used when several men are being fisted. Blood from one arse (maybe too small to even see) can contaminate the lube and end up going into another guy's arse.

Feeling the way

First, a lubed finger is inserted into a well-lubed arse, and then several more fingers follow, adding extra lube each time the hand moves in and out. Next, if the sphincter will open wide enough, the whole hand goes in, with thumb pressed against palm, fingers pointing forward. A clenched fist-shape can usually only be made once past the arse hole.

The first space after the arse hole is the rectum; itself about the size of a fist. Beyond is the entry to the colon (through the sigmoid sphincter) and beyond that the gut.

Go slowly, giving him time to adjust. Avoid sudden movements when inside him and always pull out very slowly to avoid injury.

If his arse clenches, wait for it to relax before pulling out.

Try gentle in/out movements, without pulling out totally, and changing speed, angle and depth. The fistee's groaning will let you know whether to pause or press on.

It's common to stop for a break during a session. It's also common to need quite a few attempts to manage to take the whole hand.