Things to know about sucking

People talk of blow jobs but the first thing beginners learn is you suck, not blow. Here are some more tips:

• Curling the lips up around the teeth stops them catching on the head of the cock.
• The edge of the head (corona) is another sensitive spot. Making lips into a tight ring lets a man enjoy the friction against the corona when he keeps forcing his cock head past them.
• Gripping the hand round the shaft gives more control over how far in the cock goes. This also creates a 'tube' that acts like an extension of the mouth making a man feel his dick is encased.
• Breaths should be taken each time a cock pulls back out of the mouth.
• By varying the speed and motion of the sucking a blow job can last longer but the best way to suck to orgasm is usually to use a steady rhythm with each stroke the same.
• Gripping the base of his cock will keep a cock hard.
• Sticking a lubed finger up the arse of a man being sucked is more likely to make him come.

For many men the cock head becomes super-sensitive right after orgasm, the reason some push the sucker away as they come.

Sucking someone to orgasm is the exception rather than the rule.

Gag reflex

Some men get off on retching but here are hints at controlling that gag reflex:

• Tilting your head back makes a straight line from your mouth through to the back of your throat.
• Breathe in as the cock pulls back out of your mouth.
• You can control how much cock you take into your mouth by holding the dick with your hand wrapped round the shaft so that you control the level of thrusting and how far into the mouth the dick goes.
• Over time men's gag reflex gets less and their body learns to get used to cocks in the mouth and throat.
• To avoid throwing up, it's best not to suck soon after eating.

Positions

When you're kneeling in front of the man you're sucking, his erection points upwards, but your throat curves downwards. So the trick is to manoeuvre your head so that your throat and his dick lie in a straight line. Tipping your head back opens your throat more and creates a straight line.

The easiest position for taking a dick is when the cock curves down the throat matching the way the throat curves itself. The best way to get this is to have him lying one way and you lying the other way (your feet near his head, the same position as a '69'): now the curve of his hard-on matches the curve of your throat. You can also achieve this by lying on a bed, your head hanging over the edge, while he stands in front of you - now his erection is at the same angle as the bend of your throat.

69ing

This is when you both suck and get sucked at the same time. One of you lies on your back, then the other positions himself so that he can suck his partner's cock while his partner sucks him.

The guy underneath might feel pinned to the bed and unable to control his partner's thrusting. This won't happen if you're lying on your sides facing each other, your face in his groin, and his face in yours (like the 6 and 9 in 69).

Some men find it hard to concentrate on sucking and being sucked while others find it a sensation overload, but 69ing has plenty of fans who enjoy double the fun.

Deep throat

This is when a cock goes so far down the throat that it goes past the point which triggers the gag reflex. As the dick is blocking the airway breathing isn't possible. A man can only deep throat for as long as he can go without taking a breath. It's now impossible to suck; the other guy only needs to move his cock. After deep throating the throat can ache for a day or so.