Sex codes
- 2 on 1
- Sex involving two men topping one sub.
- 420
- (Said ‘four-twenty’); American term for cannabis
- Aggro
- Rough play; punching, wrestling, kicking etc.
- Amyl
- Pronounced ‘ammul’, Australian slang for poppers.
- Ash tray service
- Taking cigarette or cigar ash in the mouth or outstretched hand or on other areas of the body (grey ash shouldn’t hurt but glowing red ash will burn).
- Bagpiping
- Fucking someone’s armpit
- Ball busting
- Getting turned on from testicles being hit or kicked.
- bb
- Bareback, fucking without condoms.
- bc
- See ‘breath control’
- bd
- Bondage and discipline
- BDSM
- Bondage and domination, sado-masochism, getting turned on by using power, control or pain – with consent – during sex.
- Bear
- Heavy, hairy man
- BLUF
- Breeches Leather Uniform Club; online membership club for leathermen.
- Body mods
- Body modification; temporary or permanent changes to the body, for example piercing, tattooing, branding and saline injection.
- Bottom, to bottom
- Man who gives up power or takes the submissive role in sex (and possibly gets fucked.)
- Branding
- Making permanent marks or patterns on the skin with heated metal.
- brb
- Be right back (if interrupted during online chat).
- Breath control
- Getting turned on by restricting your or another’s air supply through (controlled) strangulation, rebreathing, suffocation, hanging.
- Breed
- To fuck or get fucked without condoms.
- Brown
- Scat
- btw
- By the way (during online chat)
- Can(not) accomm
- The person can(not) invite men for sex to their home.
- Can/will travel
- The person will come to you for sex.
- Cash slave
- Someone who pays money (usually over the internet e.g. through Pay Pal) to a top or Master, often in return for nothing.
- Caths
- Catheters
- cbt
- Cock and ball torture
- Chariot racing
- Fisting two arses at the same time
- Chastity
- Wearing long term metal or plastic dick devices that stop a man wanking or having sex.
- Chav
- British working class street fashion (trainers or sneakers, sports wear, baseball caps, jewellery), also called Scally.
- Chems
- Recreational/party drugs
- Chemsex
- Sex on drugs.
- Collared
- Formally committed in a Master/slave-type relationship, this can be symbolised by wearing an actual dog collar or a more discreet chain.
- CP
- Corporal punishment, eg, spanking or hitting with belts, straps or whips.
- Cub
- Younger bear-type.
- Cum control
- Repeated, prolonged arousal of someone (usually restrained) to the point of ejaculation, then stopping to prevent orgasm. Especially intense if the person is eventually allowed to come.
- Cum dump, cumdumpster
- Man who gets fucked without condoms and takes semen inside his arse, usually from many men.
- Cut, uncut
- Circumcised, not circumcised
- Cyber, cybersex
- Masturbating while exchanging sexually explicit online messages
- Dawg
- The sub role in dog/Master sex. (See ‘K9’)
- dd, D/D
- Disease and drug. So ‘dd free’ means they are, and want others to be, not users of recreational drugs and free of sexually transmitted infections, often assumed to include HIV.
- dd
- Dildos
- Dirty
- Sex involving piss or shit, for example ‘into dirty’
- Dog
- The sub role in dog/Master sex (see ‘K9’).
- Dom
- Man who takes the dominant/top/Master role in sex.
- Double fisting
- Putting two fists inside a man’s arse.
- dp
- Double penetration, taking two dildos or cocks up the arse.
- Edge, edgeplay
- Sex involving real or simulated physical or psychological danger that is over the edge of traditional safe and sane play, for example cutting, needles, weapons, breath control, branding, abduction/abuse scenes, scat and role play based on age or incest.
- Electro(sex)
- Sexual stimulation with electricity
- E-stim
- Sexual stimulation with electricity
- f
- Fucking/anal sex
- Fem
- Effeminate man
- Feminisation
- Wearing women’s clothing, especially underwear, being referred to in (often derogatory) female terms, this can be forced as a form of degradation in sexual role play. This is also known as sissification/being sissified.
- ff
- Fisting.
- Flip
- To change from the top/active role to bottom/passive, or vice versa.
- G
- The recreational drug GHB (or GBL)
- Gang bang
- (Consenting) group sex.
- Gar
- Cigar.
- Gob
- Sex involving spitting on others/being spat on.
- Golden showers
- See ‘watersports’.
- GOM
- Glove over mouth, play involving grabbing someone from behind while covering their mouth.
- Guiche
- (Pronounced ‘geesh’). Piercing through the back of the ball sack and through the perineum. Read more about guiche.
- HOM
- Hand over mouth (see ‘GOM’)
- (well)hung
- Has a large cock.
- Ink/inked
- Tattoos/has tattoos.
- Jackhammering
- When one man puts his dick and hand inside the other man’s arse, then wanks himself off inside the guy’s arse. Also known as piston fucking.
- JO
- Jerk/jack off, US slang for masturbation.
- K
- The recreational drug ketamine
- K9
- Canine, role play where one man plays the part of being a dog, the other his master.
- Limits
- The line marking what someone is/isn’t willing to do sexually. No limits means they will do anything, no matter how extreme (the mark of either a fantasist or someone to avoid).
- Manstink
- Body odour.
- Masochist
- Someone who gets sexual enjoyment from feeling pain (masochism).
- Master
- Dominant partner (often sadist and/or top in anal sex) who’s been given permission by a sub to exercise control over them in a sex scene or relationship, a capital M is used to show respect.
- Metal /metalled (up)
- Body piercings/has piercings.
- Milking
- Prostate massage. A man gently stimulating with fingers, dildo, vibrator or something similar another man’s prostate gland (inside the arse) in order to get prostate fluid, a clear or milky liquid, (different to but looking like pre-cum) oozing from his cock. Can also mean forcing repeated ejaculation until no cum is left in the man.
- m8
- Friend (British English).
- Mummification
- Completely wrapping the body in tape, cling film or similar, leaving only holes to breathe through.
- Needles
- See ‘play piercing’.
- Neg
- HIV negative.
- Otter
- Man into bears who himself is slimmer but with body hair.
- PA
- Prince Albert, piercing in the head of the dick
- to Party
- Recreational drugs, ‘I like to party’ means ‘I use drugs’. ParTy means `I use the drug crystal meth’.
- Party favours
- Recreational drugs.
- to Perve
- To cruise or look at sexually (Australian slang)
- Pig
- Man into sleazy sex, possibly including piss, fisting, rimming and so on.
- Piston fucking
- See ‘jackhammering’.
- Pits
- (Sweaty) armpits.
- Play piercing
- Temporary piercing of the skin using single-use, disposable needles placed under the skin, shallow, not deep, piercing.
- PnP
- Party and play/poppers and pills, sex and recreational drugs.
- Poz, to poz (up)
- HIV positive, to infect with HIV.
- Pumping
- Using vacuum pumps to enhance an erection.
- Punch fucking
- A rougher form of fisting, inserting a clenched fist in and out of the hole, like a cock pumps an arse.
- Pup
- Younger man involved in K9 sex. See ‘dog’.
- Raw
- Fucking without condoms.
- Rebreathing
- Breathing in your own or another man’s exhaled breath, mouth to mouth holding the nose, bag over the head or though connected gas masks.
- Red
- Fisting
- Reds
- Cigarettes (especially Marlboro)
- Root
- Fuck. (Australian slang)
- Rosebud
- Internal rectal tissue sticking out through the arse hole due to heavy arse play such as fisting.
- Sadist
- Someone who gets sexual enjoyment from inflicting pain on others (sadism).
- Safe and sane (and consensual), SSC
- Into kink sex that is with consent and aims to be aware of risk, free of harm, and done sensibly.
- Safe word
- Word, code or signal agreed before sex to signal that someone is/isn’t OK.
- Saline
- Injecting salt water into the testicles or penis.
- Scally
- See ‘Chav’.
- Scrotal infusion/inflation
- Injecting salt water solution into the ball sack.
- Slamming
- Injecting drugs, often crystal meth.
- SM/S&M
- Sado-masochism; sexual enjoyment of pain, control or power.
- Sissification
- See ‘feminisation’
- Slave
- Someone who wants to be the submissive partner or bottom in a relationship with a Master, and who is usually also a masochist. Their owner exercises degrees of control over their life (property, finances, personal freedom). This may be role play restricted to sex sessions or be more a 24/7 lifestyle. Ownership (or enslavement or servitude) often symbolised by wearing a Master’s collar.
- Slave register
- Online site where slaves and subs of all sexualities can be registered and given a unique number (SLRN) and ownership certificate www.slaveregister.com.
- Sleep sack
- Close-fitting zipped and laced up leather, rubber or canvas body bag used in bondage scenes.
- Snuff
- Sex leading to death (real or fantasy).
- Sounds
- Thin metal rods inserted down the urethra (piss pipe).
- STI, STD
- Sexually transmitted infection/disease
- Sub/to Sub
- Man who takes the submissive role in sex
- Subincision
- Extreme form of body mod, involving deep cutting of the underside of the cock from the tip to its base.
- Switch
- To change sexual role (top to bottom and vice versa); a man who does this.
- Tats
- tattoos
- Tina
- The recreational drug crystal meth. A capital T randomly put into words is a code for use of this drug, eg, ‘parTy’, ‘get to the poinT’ means ‘injecting crystal meth’.
- Top, to top
- Man who takes the dominant role in sex (and probably does the fucking), to take the dominant role.
- Toys
- Sex toys: dildos, butt plugs, also vacuum pumps and genital restraints such as cockrings.
- Tribute
- Paying money (usually over the internet into a bank account, for example via PayPal) to a top or Master, often in return for nothing.
- Tromboning
- Rimming a man while wanking him off
- tt
- Tit torture, tit play
- Tweak, tweaker
- To use the drug crystal meth, meth user
- Twink
- Young (late teens, early 20s), attractive gay man, usually slim and without body hair; often assumed to be naïve/unintelligent (US slang).
- Undetectable
- Undetectable viral load (ie, a man is on HIV treatment and as a result tests have shown very low levels of HIV in his blood and semen, meaning HIV cannot be passed on).
- Urethral (play)
- Inserting catheters or metal rods (sounds) into the urethra (piss pipe).
- Vac rac
- Two full-length sheets of thin rubber held in a frame. Through vacuum suction a person is sealed in, experiencing all over coverage and immobilisation. A breathing tube prevents suffocation.
- Vacs
- Vacuum pumps; used to enhance erections.
- Vanilla
- Sex (oral and anal, mutual masturbation) that doesn’t involve anything kinky such as rough sex, fetishes, SM, bondage, piss, fisting.
- Vers
- Versatile; can take the top or bottom role in sex.
- VWE, VVWE
- Very well endowed, very very well endowed (has large cock).
- VL
- Viral load. See Undetectable.
- Wank, wanker
- Masturbate (British slang), idiot
- ws
- Watersports, also known as piss play, golden showers, yellow; playing with piss during sex, also drinking it or watching others piss.
- Yellow
- See, ‘ws’
Last review: 10/09/2018
Next review: 10/09/2021