Sex codes

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2 on 1
Sex involving two men topping one sub.
420
(Said ‘four-twenty’); American term for cannabis
Aggro
Rough play; punching, wrestling, kicking etc.
Amyl
Pronounced ‘ammul’, Australian slang for poppers.
Ash tray service
Taking cigarette or cigar ash in the mouth or outstretched hand or on other areas of the body (grey ash shouldn’t hurt but glowing red ash will burn).
Bagpiping
Fucking someone’s armpit
Ball busting
Getting turned on from testicles being hit or kicked.
bb
Bareback, fucking without condoms.
bc
See ‘breath control’
bd
Bondage and discipline
BDSM
Bondage and domination, sado-masochism, getting turned on by using power, control or pain – with consent – during sex.
Bear
Heavy, hairy man
BLUF
Breeches Leather Uniform Club; online membership club for leathermen.
Body mods
Body modification; temporary or permanent changes to the body, for example piercing, tattooing, branding and saline injection.
Bottom, to bottom
Man who gives up power or takes the submissive role in sex (and possibly gets fucked.)
Branding
Making permanent marks or patterns on the skin with heated metal.
brb
Be right back (if interrupted during online chat).
Breath control
Getting turned on by restricting your or another’s air supply through (controlled) strangulation, rebreathing, suffocation, hanging.
Breed
To fuck or get fucked without condoms.
Brown
Scat
btw
By the way (during online chat)
Can(not) accomm
The person can(not) invite men for sex to their home.
Can/will travel
The person will come to you for sex.
Cash slave
Someone who pays money (usually over the internet e.g. through Pay Pal) to a top or Master, often in return for nothing.
Caths
Catheters
cbt
Cock and ball torture
Chariot racing
Fisting two arses at the same time
Chastity
Wearing long term metal or plastic dick devices that stop a man wanking or having sex.
Chav
British working class street fashion (trainers or sneakers, sports wear, baseball caps, jewellery), also called Scally.
Chems
Recreational/party drugs
Chemsex
Sex on drugs.
Collared
Formally committed in a Master/slave-type relationship, this can be symbolised by wearing an actual dog collar or a more discreet chain.
CP
Corporal punishment, eg, spanking or hitting with belts, straps or whips.
Cub
Younger bear-type.
Cum control
Repeated, prolonged arousal of someone (usually restrained) to the point of ejaculation, then stopping to prevent orgasm. Especially intense if the person is eventually allowed to come.
Cum dump, cumdumpster
Man who gets fucked without condoms and takes semen inside his arse, usually from many men.
Cut, uncut
Circumcised, not circumcised
Cyber, cybersex
Masturbating while exchanging sexually explicit online messages
Dawg
The sub role in dog/Master sex. (See ‘K9’)
dd, D/D
Disease and drug. So ‘dd free’ means they are, and want others to be, not users of recreational drugs and free of sexually transmitted infections, often assumed to include HIV.
dd
Dildos
Dirty
Sex involving piss or shit, for example ‘into dirty’
Dog
The sub role in dog/Master sex (see ‘K9’).
Dom
Man who takes the dominant/top/Master role in sex.
Double fisting
Putting two fists inside a man’s arse.
dp
Double penetration, taking two dildos or cocks up the arse.
Edge, edgeplay
Sex involving real or simulated physical or psychological danger that is over the edge of traditional safe and sane play, for example cutting, needles, weapons, breath control, branding, abduction/abuse scenes, scat and role play based on age or incest.
Electro(sex)
Sexual stimulation with electricity
E-stim
Sexual stimulation with electricity
f
Fucking/anal sex
Fem
Effeminate man
Feminisation
Wearing women’s clothing, especially underwear, being referred to in (often derogatory) female terms, this can be forced as a form of degradation in sexual role play. This is also known as sissification/being sissified.
ff
Fisting.
Flip
To change from the top/active role to bottom/passive, or vice versa.
G
The recreational drug GHB (or GBL)
Gang bang
(Consenting) group sex.
Gar
Cigar.
Gob
Sex involving spitting on others/being spat on.
Golden showers
See ‘watersports’.
GOM
Glove over mouth, play involving grabbing someone from behind while covering their mouth.
Guiche
(Pronounced ‘geesh’). Piercing through the back of the ball sack and through the perineum. Read more about guiche.
HOM
Hand over mouth (see ‘GOM’)
(well)hung
Has a large cock.
Ink/inked
Tattoos/has tattoos.
Jackhammering
When one man puts his dick and hand inside the other man’s arse, then wanks himself off inside the guy’s arse. Also known as piston fucking.
JO
Jerk/jack off, US slang for masturbation.
K
The recreational drug ketamine
K9
Canine, role play where one man plays the part of being a dog, the other his master.
Limits
The line marking what someone is/isn’t willing to do sexually. No limits means they will do anything, no matter how extreme (the mark of either a fantasist or someone to avoid).
Manstink
Body odour.
Masochist
Someone who gets sexual enjoyment from feeling pain (masochism).
Master
Dominant partner (often sadist and/or top in anal sex) who’s been given permission by a sub to exercise control over them in a sex scene or relationship, a capital M is used to show respect.
Metal /metalled (up)
Body piercings/has piercings.
Milking
Prostate massage. A man gently stimulating with fingers, dildo, vibrator or something similar another man’s prostate gland (inside the arse) in order to get prostate fluid, a clear or milky liquid, (different to but looking like pre-cum) oozing from his cock. Can also mean forcing repeated ejaculation until no cum is left in the man.
m8
Friend (British English).
Mummification
Completely wrapping the body in tape, cling film or similar, leaving only holes to breathe through.
Needles
See ‘play piercing’.
Neg
HIV negative.
Otter
Man into bears who himself is slimmer but with body hair.
PA
Prince Albert, piercing in the head of the dick
to Party
Recreational drugs, ‘I like to party’ means ‘I use drugs’. ParTy means `I use the drug crystal meth’.
Party favours
Recreational drugs.
to Perve
To cruise or look at sexually (Australian slang)
Pig
Man into sleazy sex, possibly including piss, fisting, rimming and so on.
Piston fucking
See ‘jackhammering’.
Pits
(Sweaty) armpits.
Play piercing
Temporary piercing of the skin using single-use, disposable needles placed under the skin, shallow, not deep, piercing.
PnP
Party and play/poppers and pills, sex and recreational drugs.
Poz, to poz (up)
HIV positive, to infect with HIV.
Pumping
Using vacuum pumps to enhance an erection.
Punch fucking
A rougher form of fisting, inserting a clenched fist in and out of the hole, like a cock pumps an arse.
Pup
Younger man involved in K9 sex. See ‘dog’.
Raw
Fucking without condoms.
Rebreathing
Breathing in your own or another man’s exhaled breath, mouth to mouth holding the nose, bag over the head or though connected gas masks.
Red
Fisting
Reds
Cigarettes (especially Marlboro)
Root
Fuck. (Australian slang)
Rosebud
Internal rectal tissue sticking out through the arse hole due to heavy arse play such as fisting.
Sadist
Someone who gets sexual enjoyment from inflicting pain on others (sadism).
Safe and sane (and consensual), SSC
Into kink sex that is with consent and aims to be aware of risk, free of harm, and done sensibly.
Safe word
Word, code or signal agreed before sex to signal that someone is/isn’t OK.
Saline
Injecting salt water into the testicles or penis.
Scally
See ‘Chav’.
Scrotal infusion/inflation
Injecting salt water solution into the ball sack.
Slamming
Injecting drugs, often crystal meth.
SM/S&M
Sado-masochism; sexual enjoyment of pain, control or power.
Sissification
See ‘feminisation’
Slave
Someone who wants to be the submissive partner or bottom in a relationship with a Master, and who is usually also a masochist. Their owner exercises degrees of control over their life (property, finances, personal freedom). This may be role play restricted to sex sessions or be more a 24/7 lifestyle. Ownership (or enslavement or servitude) often symbolised by wearing a Master’s collar.
Slave register
Online site where slaves and subs of all sexualities can be registered and given a unique number (SLRN) and ownership certificate www.slaveregister.com.
Sleep sack
Close-fitting zipped and laced up leather, rubber or canvas body bag used in bondage scenes.
Snuff
Sex leading to death (real or fantasy).
Sounds
Thin metal rods inserted down the urethra (piss pipe).
STI, STD
Sexually transmitted infection/disease
Sub/to Sub
Man who takes the submissive role in sex
Subincision
Extreme form of body mod, involving deep cutting of the underside of the cock from the tip to its base.
Switch
To change sexual role (top to bottom and vice versa); a man who does this.
Tats
tattoos
Tina
The recreational drug crystal meth. A capital T randomly put into words is a code for use of this drug, eg, ‘parTy’, ‘get to the poinT’ means ‘injecting crystal meth’.
Top, to top
Man who takes the dominant role in sex (and probably does the fucking), to take the dominant role.
Toys
Sex toys: dildos, butt plugs, also vacuum pumps and genital restraints such as cockrings.
Tribute
Paying money (usually over the internet into a bank account, for example via PayPal) to a top or Master, often in return for nothing.
Tromboning
Rimming a man while wanking him off
tt
Tit torture, tit play
Tweak, tweaker
To use the drug crystal meth, meth user
Twink
Young (late teens, early 20s), attractive gay man, usually slim and without body hair; often assumed to be naïve/unintelligent (US slang).
Undetectable
Undetectable viral load (ie, a man is on HIV treatment and as a result tests have shown very low levels of HIV in his blood and semen, meaning HIV cannot be passed on).
Urethral (play)
Inserting catheters or metal rods (sounds) into the urethra (piss pipe).
Vac rac
Two full-length sheets of thin rubber held in a frame. Through vacuum suction a person is sealed in, experiencing all over coverage and immobilisation. A breathing tube prevents suffocation.
Vacs
Vacuum pumps; used to enhance erections.
Vanilla
Sex (oral and anal, mutual masturbation) that doesn’t involve anything kinky such as rough sex, fetishes, SM, bondage, piss, fisting.
Vers
Versatile; can take the top or bottom role in sex.
VWE, VVWE
Very well endowed, very very well endowed (has large cock).
VL
Viral load. See Undetectable.
Wank, wanker
Masturbate (British slang), idiot
ws
Watersports, also known as piss play, golden showers, yellow; playing with piss during sex, also drinking it or watching others piss.
Yellow
See, ‘ws’

Last review: 10/09/2018
Next review: 10/09/2021