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Bondage

AKA:

  • B&D (bondage and discipline)
  • BDSM (bondage and discipline/domination and submission, sado-masochism).

Hanky code colour

Grey, or by rope or handcuffs, worn:

  • on the left (wants to tie up)
  • on the right (wants to be tied up).

What is bondage?

Bondage is getting your kicks from being restrained or restraining others (with rope, metal etc).

Mummification is bondage that immobilises someone by wrapping them tightly from head to toe, often with only breathing holes left uncovered.

A variation on bondage is chastity; restraining the cock through lockable metal or plastic cage-like devices as a means of control and to prevent sex or wanking.

A variety of objects can restrain in different ways:

  • pulling together with rope, straps, harness or handcuffs
  • spreading apart with spreader bars or X frame/St Andrews cross
  • tying to another object, such as to stocks, a chair or fuck bench
  • hanging from another object, such as suspension bondage
  • restricting movement using handcuffs, straitjacket, pony harness or chastity devices
  • encasing someone (mummification) in sleep sack, vac rac, clingfilm or duct tape.

What’s the attraction?

The kick comes from feeling helpless and struggling against restraints or making someone helpless and watching them struggle.

For the guy being tied there’s the physical thrill of feeling tightly bound, especially by material and equipment with a fetish quality such as leather straps, metal restraints, rubber or tape covering the body. There’s an erotic charge in giving up control and allowing yourself to be vulnerable, dominated, unable to resist and dependent on another man.

The restrainer gets off on seeing the discomfort of his ‘victim’ or feeling their trust.

Bondage gives a sense of danger but in a safe way. It plays on humiliation and control, especially in role play (such as police or prison scenes).

Bondage can heighten the pleasure of orgasm through controlling or denying the ability to come.

Last review: 19/09/2018
Next review: 19/09/2021